#2 Parenting: We don’t really start to ‘get it’ until we’re in it.♥

♥ Inspiration: Read this meme and if it resonates with you, read on…

Responsibility

 

♥ Insight: Something for you to ponder…

Becoming a parent comes with enormous responsibility. We often expect that, but we don’t really start to get it until we’re in it. (That’s probably a really good thing!). We go in looking forward to being the ones who will raise and care for another, and then as the days march on we get a better feel for what this really means. It’s enough to strike terror in our hearts. We literally have to figure out how we’re going to do this parenting thing on the go because someone’s life now depends on us. OMGosh!

The most natural thing in the world is to look around and see what everyone else is up to. We all do it, we just can’t help it. When we feel unsure we are moved to look to others for guidance. How’s it working for them? Will it work for me?  Should try that, or that? What if it doesn’t work? Why don’t I ask her? None of that was much help, maybe he’ll know. Perhaps I should google it. It’s a rabbit hole that has no end.

What we tend to forget in the frenzy is that we each have an onboard guidance system that would serve us well, if we could just remember to use it. How we feel about what we are hearing from others or reading about, tells us more than we may realize. It’s our intuition speaking to us, but we often override feelings with logic. If we’ve been doing this for a long time it’s become our new normal, but that doesn’t mean that it’s serving us or our children very well.

The way back to finding our own parenting path is to get back in tune with ourselves. It starts with us. Once we do that we’re less likely to be lead astray by others. What’s right for one person, doesn’t make it right for another. What ‘works’ with someone else’s child doesn’t mean it is the best fit for your unique child. You know what’s best for your child because you know your child best.

♥ Intention: If you feel moved to set an intention for today, this could be it…

Today I will try and pay more attention to how I am feeling when I react or respond to my child. Do I feel unsettled by my conduct or do I feel that my behaviour is congruent with who I truly am? I don’t have to change anything today, all I’ll do is notice how I’m feeling.

 

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#1 Are you paying attention to your child’s ‘inappropriate’ behaviour? ♥

Good, you should be…but maybe not for the reasons you might think.

Inspiration: Read this meme and if it resonates with you, read on…

Window of Opportunity

Insight: Something for you to ponder…

There is no doubt about it…behaviour gets our attention...and the bigger it is, the more of our focus we tend to give it. I’m not for a second suggesting that you ignore ‘inappropriate’ behaviour, but what I am hoping to convey is the message that ALL behaviour is communication and it’s up to us to slow ourselves down enough to read it rather than only reacting to it.

Whenever children (or anyone) acts out in ways that we consider to be ‘unacceptable or inappropriate,’ the drive for them to do so is stronger than their drive not to. There are many good reasons for that. It’s up to us to look a little deeper into what’s going on for our children if we are to help them to move through it rather than getting stuck in it with them.

That may not sound very easy to do (and at first it probably won’t be) because it requires us to change the way we have been seeing them. Lasting change takes time. That’s the good news and the bad news all rolled into one.

Good News: We get to take on the responsibility of making the change.

Bad News: We get to take on the responsibility of making the change.

With each and every interaction going forward we have the opportunity to start looking at behaviour as a source of valuable information. 

Intention: If you feel moved to set an intention for today, this is could be it…

Today I will try and see my child’s ‘misbehaviour’ as an opportunity for me to get to know them a little bit better. The way they behave gives me information about their emotional development and by being open to receiving it rather than fearing it, I’m better able to support them as they grow up. 

 

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Welcome to my look-with-love blog. ♥

At last, here it is, a place for caring hearts to visit when looking for inspiration, seeking insight or wanting to align with their intentions. It’s all about wanting to make deeper sense of those we truly love, our children.

Here’s how it works: Each post will accompany a meme. Look at it, read it and pay attention to how it makes you feel. Does the message resonate with you, does it make you want to know more, or does it push a button in you that turns you right off?

BLOG Welcome

If you read it and find yourself feeling inspired and thinking ‘Yes, this means something to me’…then you should read on.

If you read it and feel yourself opening up and wanting insight you’ll likely be going,  ‘Hmmmmm this seems quite interesting, I wonder what this is all about?’…then read on.

If after a quick scan you feel uneasy, squirmy or even perhaps a little irritated, then today’s post is not for you…don’t read another word! It’s not for you. And that’s okay. What I share here isn’t for everyone, nor do I expect it to be. Just know that if ever you feel drawn back to it, it will be here.

The message in each meme you’ll see here inspires me in someway. Many of them are my own words (not that I’m saying I inspire myself but you get what I mean!) but there will be plenty that convey the insights of others and they make me feel and think, ‘Yes, this resonates with me!’

The final few lines of each post will invite you to set your intention going forward. This is meant for those who have read the insight and feel moved by it in some way. If it didn’t gel with you, then stop there. There’s no point in trying to force yourself into thinking or doing anything that doesn’t feel like a natural fit for you, so please don’t. One day you might feel differently and you’ll come back to it, but in the meantime, be true to who you are and how you are feeling. That’s the key to finding your own way through, and you will.

Inspiration leads us to seeking deeper insight, which leads to us setting meaningful intentions, which guides us on our journey with our children. I’m hoping that what I share here will play a part in doing that for you, when the time is right.

Thank you for being here, I’m glad that you are.

With love, Bridgett ♥

 

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