# 10 Feelings before Behaviour? Really? ♥

♥ Inspiration: Read this meme and if it resonates with you,  I invite you to read on…

feelings

♥ Insight: Something for you to ponder…

Behaviour grabs our attention because it’s supposed to. All behaviour (the pleasant and the not so pleasant) tells us something about what’s happening emotionally for our child. We have to get better at reading it rather than being distracted by it.

When we react to behaviour by attempting to stamp it out we often miss valuable clues telling us what our child really needs from us. Each interaction we have presents us with an opportunity to either deepen or erode the long term relationship that we are wanting to have with our child. 

Don’t get me wrong, this is not about letting children run amok because that’s what they feel like doing. This is about us taking responsibility for figuring out what is moving them to act out in the ways they do… and then responding in a way that addresses their underlying need whilst also passing on our values and expectations without damaging our relationship.

We’re meant to love, guide and teach them and if we’re invested in doing just that then it’s up to us to seek resources that resonate with us and support us on our parenting journey. They’re all around us, we just have to be willing and open. Are you ready?

♥ Intention: If you feel moved to set an intention for today, this could be it…

Today I will focus my energy on looking beneath my children’s distracting behaviour so that I am better able to address the need that is driving them to act out in the ways they do. I’ll remind myself that all behaviour is an opportunity for me to get to know my child at a deeper level and in so doing , I will be empowered to guide and support them to be who they are capable of being.

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